Asexual dating sites
So, I just came across this thread on AVEN where someone listed a bunch of potential dating/friend-finding sites that Aces could find useful.I’m posting the list here for all of you who may want to check them out.In the last ten years, there has been a growing awareness that some people don’t want or need sex to live happy and fulfilled lives.However, something that still confuses people is how asexual people navigate dating! Ben believed it was down to a go-karting accident at 8 years old as to why he couldn’t... So I asked him how he felt about sex in his mind, not his body. He felt compelled to be around me and, in his words, “I like to look at you. Sleeping in the same bed took him a while to get used to and I’d often wake up to an empty bed and a text saying “Had to go to work” when he later admitted that he just couldn’t sleep that close to someone… “Like someone with arachnophobia having to hold a spider in his palms for 7 hours” he explained to me. Physical contact and intimacy for an asexual must be on their terms. Waking up with someone - that intimate companionship - is the emotional side of love. He was more than happy in our “Couple bubble” with our inside jokes and secret looks. To him, asexuality was the absence of sexual desire, not the revulsion of it. But I refused to agree to exclusivity as I couldn’t imagine myself in a sexless relationship forever. It’s easier to blame a go karting accident than label yourself as different, but on the inside, he was relieved. Not even holding hands for that matter (I tried once and he frowned furiously until I stopped) but when I finally asked him, Ben said he did have an attraction to me. I was one step up from a friend and, for him that was very intimate. Eventually we did sleep in the same bed, just no touching, and Ben said he loved that. We loved every minute of each other’s company, and spent every spare moment we could together. They Feel Guilty (But Shouldn’t) Ben and I would sit for hours and demolish bottle after bottle of red wine into the late hours, laughing so hard my chest ached. He didn’t find the idea of sex disgusting or revolting. Removing sex from a relationship made us bond, very fast, and within 2 months I couldn’t remember not having him in my life. Ben still doesn’t talk about his asexuality, as he doesn’t know anyone else like him. I've asked other people for advice, and the answer is usually "take one for the team," have sex to keep them happy.
I also get and respond to questions from asexuals, and I've urged sexuals not to regard asexuals as defective—or, for that matter, to view committed-but-sexless relationships as defective.
Everyone wants it or needs it, we should fuck before dinner, or we can spice up our sex life in this certain way to be happy.
What about someone who doesn't want to have sex, ever?
But what about the people for whom sex holds no interest? So what is asexual orientation, and what do you need to know about this identity? In general, an asexual person does not feel or otherwise experience any sexual attraction, according to The Asexual Visibility & Education Network (AVEN).
Basically, it is an inborn absence of sexual desire.